You know self-care is important but yet you put it off. A reason is because it’s easy to get lost in what other people want. They are able to articulate what they want from you. It may be harder for you to answer what you want so instead of focusing on you, you focus on others.
If you suffer from the disease to please you can’t help but do whatever it is that they need. When you take care of others you know what they need or what’s expected of you. It feels safer to follow their lead or to put gently accomplishment feels good.
You probably don’t want to hear the rest of this, but let’s be honest.
Caring for Others Is Easier Than Taking Care of Yourself
In order for you to take really good care of yourself you need to know a few things:
- What things make you feel good?
- What things in your life need work?
- When could you take care of yourself?
These are challenging questions for a working mom because all of the answers have one thing in common – they take up time. To answer these questions you would have to take some time to think about them. Then once you figure out the answers you will want to do one or two of them (Oh no! Not that!)
And what if you don’t know any of the answers! It’s easy to be afraid of the unknown. You may be afraid that you’ll think of something so cool that it may cost too much money or time. Then you’ll feel even worse.
So instead you don’t deal with fear or take some time to think about your wants and desires. Instead, you take what you perceive to be the easy road, and busy yourself by taking care of others.
When You Get Used to Caring For Others It’s Hard to Stop
When you first became a mother you were caring for a newborn who could do nothing on their own. You were needed, very much. After a while, you enjoy feeling needed. Only you know know what your son or daughter needs. And that’s the truth because you are an awesome mom.
As your child gets older though they need you less and less. It can be hard to cope with this change. So you try to do more and more to prove to others that, “Hey, did you see that? You do still need me!”
When does it stop? When do you stop doing things for others so you can take better care of yourself?
Be Audacious. Create a Self-Care Plan You Can’t Say No To
In order to get control over the time you give to others and the energy you spend on them, you need a plan. And it can’t just be a plan that floats around in your mind. You need a written action plan that will give you a reason to make better choices about your self-care and the confidence to say no to others and yes to yourself.
This plan will make you feel incredible. It’ll replenish your energy daily. Life will feel less chaotic. And, yes, you will find more time in your day to do the things you want to do. You’ll feel more in control of your personal and professional life. You’ll be able to accomplish things you were unable to do (because you were just too tired).
This plan is critical for you to follow so that you can continue taking care of those who matter most. A day will come when someone in your life really needs your help and because you take good care of yourself you are willing and able, not burnt out and exhausted.
Self-care is the act of taking care of your body, mind, and spirit. Build your plan from this definition so you feel balanced. If you want to feel better or get to a better place professionally it all starts with how well you are treating yourself, not others. Your self-care is vital to your success as a working mom. If you want to have a better work/life balance focus your efforts on an irresistible self-care plan.
Do you have a self-care plan that you can’t say no to? What is on your list? Leave a comment below and tell us all about it!
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