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A tough day at work can be draining. Then if your kids start acting up your energy level could hit rock bottom. Check out these tips on how to stop elementary-aged kids from draining your precious mommy energy so you can finish your day strong.
Do Not Attend Every Argument You’re Invited To
If you have a child that’s trying to talk their way out of trouble, then this one is for you. If you caught your child doing something wrong, like not doing their chores, give the punishment and then end the conversation. There’s no need to listen to the rebuttal.
An argument with your child is emotionally draining. Your energy dips. To take control of the situation be assertive.
You do not need to explain yourself until your child is satisfied. Stop the fight when *you* want to. #workingmom @lizzymccoach
Use the assertive technique called “Broken record” and start repeating the punishment. If you told your child to go in a time out keep saying the word, “Sit.” until they do so. Then turn your back and walk away.
Teach Them the Secret Phrase for Help
A child whining is energy zapping! The “Mommy? Mommy? Mommy?” song is even worse! If one of these moments come up use this opportunity to teach your child that it’s OK to ask for help. Even if they are unsure about what they need help with teach them that a specific phrase to get your attention. Here are a few examples:
- Help, please!
- I really need help ASAP!
- Can I get a little help over here, please!
You want them to use the word “help” and not the word “Mom”. When they use the word “help” when they cry for help it’s addressed to anyone who can hear it, not just you.
You are not the only superhero in the house! Let your partner answer their pleas for help. #workingmom @lizzymccoach
Tell Them How You Feel
Let’s say you’re in a bad mood (it can happen to the best of us!). If your kids start nagging you about anything you could be set off. So before you blow up because no one is doing what they’ve been told say, “You are making me very angry right now!” If you feel a scream building up in your throat close your eyes and take a deep breath. Practice makes good habits.
Defusing the situation like this will keep your energy high. Truthfully, the kids don’t want to make you angry. They may have some personal energy they need to use up before bedtime. Plus they prefer happy mom over angry mom.
If you make it habit to share your feelings you are teaching them emotional intelligence. It’s OK to get angry or sad, but there’s a certain way to handle it. Talking about it saves you time and energy. You’re not as angry because you’ve admitted to yourself and your kids that you are unhappy. You realize your bad mood has completely taken over and you need to cool off a bit.
If you catch yourself wishing that bedtime would come quicker that’s a red flag. You haven’t seen your kids all day so if you want to enjoy the time you have with them, and build up your energy at the same time, use one of these tips. Be the happy mom your family, and you, want to be. Then celebrate when they are in their beds because you’ve made it through a challenging day a stronger working mama!
Tell me in the comments below how do you stop your kiddos from draining your energy at night!
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